You’ve taken a really brave step.
The idea of entering counseling or therapy, even if you’ve done it before, can be scary. You’re so strong to reach out for help. If you’ve made it here, you’ve likely done tons of thinking, talking, and worrying. You’ve even done some research, looking for someone who understands you as a creative.
A different kind of therapy
Many therapists work through the medical model: you come in, they give you an assessment and a diagnosis, they set specifically measurable goals, and you are then provided with an education on how to achieve those goals. The therapist is the expert and you are the patient with an individual problem and a plan to “cope” with “your problem”. This type of model assumes that all problems are individual, medical, and permanent.
There’s another school of thought that puts the expertise in the hands of the client, because honestly, who knows your life better than you? When you come into my office, I ask you why you’ve come to therapy, what you want to work on, and what your end goals are. Then, I listen to your story – where you came from and what you’re going through. I ask questions that help me learn about your struggles and your strengths. Together, we define the problem in whatever way works best, but I will not label you as the problem. There is context to everything. We are shaped by our relationships – with our families and friends, co-workers, employers, schools, culture, religion, gender roles, sexual orientation, race, and society at large. The connections in our brains are created by these relationships. There’s nothing wrong with you – you’ve just learned to survive the best way you know how! We work together to rewrite your story, finding new ways of being for you so that you can have a better sense of well-being on YOUR terms. Because seriously, there is no single definition of “normal” or “healthy”. This is about finding what works for YOU.
I specialize in working with highly empathic creatives who encounter problems through feeling and giving too much. Some refer to this as people-pleasing or “Codependency”.
When you’re stuck in a people-pleasing cycle, it often takes a long time to realize it. All you know is that you say yes when you really want to say no because you’re too afraid that someone will get mad at you if you do. You give up your own activities, opinions, and dreams to help someone else or to make someone else happy. Sometimes you don’t even know what your feelings are. All you know is that you’re intensely worried about someone else’s problems and you get upset when you can’t help them, maybe even angry if they won’t let you help. You become stifled and controlled. You’re too afraid to create what you really want or to try something new, so you keep making what feels like the same thing over and over again. Or you stop creating entirely. You say no when someone asks if you are anxious, but you have a terrible pit in your stomach constantly. You might even have IBS, physical pain, or constant fatigue.
You may have a partner or parent that suffers from addiction. You might stay up late or sacrifice your own plans just to make sure your partner doesn’t use or drink too much. You may have cleaned up your parent’s physical and emotional messes when you were little. Or maybe you weren’t exposed to an addict, but were with someone who tried to make you believe your feelings and thoughts weren’t valid or worthy. Maybe you were controlled and emotionally abused by someone close to you.
I’m here to say, there’s nothing wrong with you. You have a big heart and that’s a good thing. But maybe you’re hurting. Maybe your relationship is hurting. Maybe you’re ready to say no to the things you don’t want and to start saying yes to yourself. When you learn to detach yourself from the thoughts and feelings of others, you begin to fully understand and respect your own. That’s what we can do in therapy.
Ready to feel more hopeful and empowered?
Schedule your complimentary phone consultation now.
Alternatively, you can call me at 443-687-9951 or email me. I’d love to hear your story.
What should I expect at our first session?
When we first meet, I’ll go over some forms with you, which include providing your contact information, giving informed consent for treatment, policies and procedures, and going over payment options. We’ll then spend the rest of the hour getting to know one another and beginning to set goals for our time together. You’re welcome to ask me any questions at this time and throughout the therapeutic process.
What are your fees?
My fee ranges from $80 – $125 for a 50-minute session. The fee is set on a sliding scale based upon your income.
Do you take insurance?
I don’t directly participate in any insurance panels, because I believe YOU should be in charge of your process, not your insurance company. Many PPO plans will reimburse some percentage of your treatment cost. If you wish to attempt to be reimbursed by your insurance company, I am happy to provide you with the receipts and coding needed to do so. I cannot guarantee reimbursement, however – this all depends upon your insurance plan.
What is your availability?
Day, evening, and Saturday appointments are available. Click here to view available times and schedule your 30-minute complimentary phone consultation.
Where are you located?
My office is located in Baltimore City in the lovely Mt. Washington Village neighborhood just off of I-83.
Have more questions?
Schedule your complimentary phone consultation now.
I’ll listen to what’s troubling you and give you as much information as I can about how I can help, so you can decide whether we’re a good fit.
It’s ok to reach out for help when it feels like you just can’t move forward. I’m here when you’re ready to get unstuck.